101 Foster Care Tips: Dealing With Difficult Situations
As a foster parent it’s worth remembering that when a child enters your home it’s highly likely they’ll be both excited and apprehensive at the same time.
Well, there’s really no need to worry as this is perfectly normal, although we’ll always recommend the many ways in which you can prepare for your foster placement to help limit the nervousness faced by you, your family and the foster child.
However, and much like any other type of parenting, foster care does have its tricky moments, so it’s important that you as a foster parent feel comfortable and confident in resolving.
Being able to understand a particular child’s history can go a long way in helping to deal with any difficult situations. For example, we often find that the children and young people who come into our care often suffer from a lack of concentration and focus, as well as other emotional insecurities.
The good news is that with your love, care and warmth these difficult periods can quickly disappear, leading to a brighter, more optimistic outlook in their lives. While we’ll always provide our foster carers with comprehensive training, support and advice, we’ll also make sure that you’re never made to feel alone at any point of the fostering placement.
Our Fostering Services Manager, Joanne, explains, “Never think you are on your own. You can ask for support from the agencies emotional health lead and talk to your supervising social worker. They can provide you guidance, advice and help you to get the best support for the child or young person.”
What our fostering community says…
“If a child is being challenging, you need to understand why they are behaving like that. So you need to listen to them. It may be that they just need reassurance. In one situation I dealt with, it turned out they were upset because they thought they would sent away, again. I had to give them a heartfelt reassurance that this was not going to happen.” – Elaine P
“Sometimes the best thing to do is let them blow off that steam. We hung a punch bag in the garage for one of the teenagers to punch when he gets angry and he does actually use it. Another will go off for a bike ride until he calms down.” – Elaine G
“If they behave badly and they are wrong, they need to know that there will be consequences. It might be they have to stay in or they are not allowed to have their phone for the evening. I try not to be harsh – but I do try to be firm and fair.” – Cathryn
“We had a situation when our young teenager wouldn’t come in off the street. He was monkeying around with his friends and when we went out to him, he ran off. We didn’t go chasing after him, as that’s what he wanted. He eventually came in and when he did we calmly explained why he was wrong to do that. Because he respected us, he got a bit upset about the situation – but he apologised and didn’t do it again.” – Cathie
At Perpetual Fostering we’re currently recruiting new foster carers to join our fostering community, so if you’d like to find out more information we’d love to hear to from you. Simply contact our friendly and knowledgeable team with any queries that you may have.