Explaining Relocation to a Foster Child
Here is how you should explain a move to a foster child
Foster care is a difficult task. Taking the complete responsibility of a child can be fun as well as tough. Furthermore, there are many aspects of this job that are emotionally very difficult to handle as a foster parent. One of the toughest ones is to explain the child if he or she is being moved to another family. You need to be emotionally very strong and stable to explain the child that he or she is being moved due to some disruption. It also very important to explain the child that he or she is not the reason of this disruption.
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When we had to disrupt on one of our foster placements, we had already parented the child for well over a year. The move was due to irresolvable conflicts with those involved with the case and we all felt it was in the best interest of all involved if the child was moved to a new foster home.
Since the child was available for adoption, he was transitioned to a foster to adopt foster home. Telling him that he was moving was something I personally dreaded as I knew he was going to be afraid and take the news hard.
After calling for advice from a trusted colleague, I started the week long process of telling him that he was moving.
I was instructed to read the book, In My Heart, a week before telling the child about the move.
A few days later, if the child is moving to a foster to adopt home, explain adoption. Read books such as, Let’s Talk About It: Adoption, by Mr. Fred Rogers.
If the child is moving to another foster home, read Maybe Days and explain foster care.
Ask the social workers if the child can spend a respite weekend with the new foster family. Advocate for a period of transition. Make sure that the child has the opportunity to spend a couple of respite weekends with the new family so that he does not feel like he is moving to the home of complete strangers, adding to his fear and trauma.
After the respite weekend, read Welcome Home Forever Child, by Christine Mitchell. This children’s book explains the feelings that many adoptive parents have about their older adopted child and the joy they feel about being a new family.
Author: Carrie Craft
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