There’s no reason to suffer from empty nest syndrome
Empty Nest Syndrome may not be an official clinical term but there is no doubt it affects many parents whose children have grown up and left home.
Washington Post writer Michael Gerson recently described this feeling in an article entitled Saying Goodbye To My Child, The Youngster. He said: “With due respect to my son’s feelings, I have the worst of it. His life is starting for real. I have begun the long letting go.”
When families have busy ‘nests’, for perhaps 18 years or more, it is a daunting thought to imagine a family home suddenly becoming quiet and empty. This poses the question- how can one re-fill the proverbial nest?
For many, this is a period when fostering becomes a very real consideration. Offering a child a home is in many ways a selfless act but it can also bring a great deal of satisfaction and fulfilment to parents once their own children have fled the nest.
We are now approaching the season when thousands of children will leave the family home and make the transition to life at university. It seems timely, therefore, to point out that at a time when so many homes will become ‘empty’ there are thousands of children who are in desperate need of a loving home.
Filling an empty nest
There are approximately 30,000 children who come into the care system every year- and providing daily support to a vulnerable child or young person would go a long way to providing them with the chance of a better outcome in life.
The decision to foster is not an easy one, and the journey may not always be smooth, but there is always support for foster carers as they adjust to this change in their life. At Perpetual Fostering we take great care to match children with the right family and home, and we stay in regular contact with foster families throughout the child’s placement – social workers are only ever a phone call away and additional assistance out of hours is also available.
Perpetual foster carers Elaine and Naresh were in similar situation when they first considered fostering, with their own children having left the family home. By taking the decision to go ahead and foster they have now experienced first-hand what a gratifying experience fostering can be.
“We’ve been extremely lucky to have a close-knit family and to have brought up our own beautiful and talented children. We just wanted to give something back,” said Elaine.
“Yes it is hard but I would say that’s not a valid reason for not doing what you can to help these children.”
She added: “I’d always thought about fostering. It was learning more about these children that made us more determined to do it.”
If you want to have a positive impact on the life of child who needs your help, by providing a safe and secure home, then please contact the Perpetual Fostering team via the website on by telephone on 0845 1304748.