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Controlling Your Angry Feelings

Now and again, different situations can cause us to become angry. There’s nothing wrong with feeling angry as it’s a natural response when something upsets or frustrates us, but what you need to be careful about is how you deal with these feelings and what actions you take.

If someone gets angry a lot and their actions become out of control as a result, some people may say that they ‘have a temper’. When someone says they ‘lose their temper’ easily, it usually means that they react differently when they’re frustrated or angry. Usually a person becomes angry when they don’t know how to express their feelings or diffuse a situation, so a way that you can control your anger is to work out how you can calm yourself down and de-stress a situation.

Take control of the situation
Only you can decide whether you’re in control of your emotions and actions. By saying to yourself, “I’m in control” you can decide what you do with your feelings and your actions when you get angry.

Talk about your feelings
You may not be very confident with talking about your feelings to others, but even just a chat with your parent, carer or a friend can make you feel so much better. This will make it easier for them to help you and to know when you might have a moment of anger.

Just breathe
Even just completing simple breathing exercises can make you feel a lot calmer and give you a better perspective of a situation so that you don’t end up ‘losing your temper.’

Take yourself away from the situation
If you know that being in a certain situation or environment will only increase your feelings of anger and frustration, try to remove yourself from that situation simply by going into another room or going outside into your garden for a moment.

We all understand that exam time can be a difficult period of the year – so well done to all school students. However, waiting for your results can feel worse than the exams themselves! So keep the following tips in mind. They’re all reasons why you shouldn’t waste time thinking about exams and tests that are already done and dusted!

Get Active In The Sunshine!
Working hard at revision and homework is always important. However, by the time exams are over, you’ve probably spent a lot of time indoors, sitting at your desk. But now, that’s over – you’re free to do whatever you want for the next couple of months!

Spend Time With Friends And Family
A big part of unwinding is spending time with those nearest and dearest to you. So when you’re off to try out new activities and so on, you should ask people to join you! Especially if you’re new to your community, school, or the area you live in, this is a great way to get to know new people.

Make Time For Your Favourite Hobbies And Past-times
What hobbies do you have? If you’re still learning what you love to do, then you should try lots of different activities. There are all sorts of things you can try in your local area, without too much cost or planning – the following are just a few:

  • rock climbing
  • pottery and ceramics
  • painting and drawing
  • football, or similar sports
  • swimming

Just ask your foster carers if you need help getting involved in these kinds of activities.

Enjoy Your Holiday
If you’re very lucky, your foster parents will take you away on a trip somewhere! And if they do, be sure to thank them for the lovely thought.

If you’re a foster parent reading this, be sure to share it with your foster children, to give them some ideas. Also, please let us know if we’ve missed anything out?

We care so that you can.