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Dealing With Bad Experiences

We all have bad experiences, which is a way we learn and develop as people. It’s easy to focus on the negative aspect of a situation but what’s really important is to look at the valuable lessons that these bad experiences teach us. The way you react to a situation affects the outcome.

Don’t focus on the negatives
If you carry on focusing on a mistake or a bad experience, then you won’t be able to move on and concentrate on something else. You don’t have to completely forget an experience, just learn from it to turn it into a positive.

Bad moments will pass
This is an important idea to understand, that bad things do eventually come to end. If you’ve made a mistake, with time it will be easy to understand what happened and you’ll be able to move past it.

There is a purpose to everything
Some people believe that everything happens for a reason and that each experience has a purpose. It’s good to think of a positive outcome from your experience. Did you learn anything? Understand a situation better? Always try to take away something positive.

Set a new goal
Having something to strive towards can make it easier to move on from your experience. Don’t dwell on negative experiences, set a new, positive goal that will give you something to focus on and work towards.

So, always take something positive from a situation, whether it was good or bad. See everything as a learning opportunity to develop and grow as a person.

Setting goals is a vital and extremely useful skill in life. If you set goals, whether they are big lifelong goals, or small daily goals, you are more likely to achieve things you want to achieve and be more successful. Studies show that it usually takes five or six unsuccessful attempts at goal setting to make them happen. So if you don’t achieve you goals straight away, don’t give up!

There are hundreds of tips and tricks to help you set goals, but one that I think is really helpful is the SMART method.

SMART is a mnemonic for:

Specific: Instead of a general goal such as “I want to do better in school” you should set a specific goal like “I will complete my homework essay by the end of this week.” Setting specific targets will make it a lot easier to achieve your overall goal
Measurable: By making your goals measurable, it will be easier to track your progress and realise if you have been successful.
Attainable: It is important to know whether your goals are realistic. If you aim to achieve an unrealistic target then you are more likely to be unsuccessful. Always set sensible and manageable goals to ensure you achieve what you want to achieve.
Relevant: Are your goals relevant to the ‘big picture’ i.e. Your main goal, possibly the biggest one. What you’ve got to look at is the small goals that you’ve set: Are they worthwhile? Are you likely to achieve them? Are these definitely the goals you need to set?
Time- related: Setting time specific targets will keep you on track and help you to really focus on what you need to do. Rather than setting one goal that you want to achieve a long time ahead in the future, think about what you need to do along the way to reach that goal.

What about you? What goals do you have for the future? Let us know – if you’re a young person thinking about the next few years, we’d love to hear from you!